Classy 97 Family Feud: Trying To Keep Grandma Safe At Thanksgiving

From November 4, 2020

Dear Liza,
Every year we go to my Grandmother’s house for Thanksgiving dinner. She has 6 children and always said she didn’t mind if they were gone for Christmas, but Thanksgiving is HER holiday. My Grandmother is 78 years old and not in good health. So we had a big family Zoom call and agreed to tell Grandma, together, that we would not be coming for dinner, to help keep her safe and healthy. It was not received well. She is hurt and angry and while I understand that, I’d rather she be hurt and angry and alive. But, my cousin Emma doesn’t seem to care. When Grandma got mad, Emma caved. Now she’s going to dinner and taking her toddler son with her. He goes to daycare! Emma works in a school! The rest of us are really concerned about my Grandmother getting sick, and Emma only cares that she is now Grandma’s favorite. This is causing a real problem in my family. What do you think we should do?
Andrea, Idaho Falls